Hijack away….I can always learn something from what people post (on my thread or theirs :-) Sounds like I should look into DB coach and solutions based therapist. Will do that soon.
On another note, this is how my week has gone with H:
Friday, Saturday, Sunday - radio silence (nothing to me or the boys - with OW?)
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday - 4-6 texts daily about "housekeeping" stuff regarding the kids, including the tickets to bball games this weekend. All civil, nothing contentious, all initiated by him. I tried to be civil yet short in my responses.
Thursday - unfortunately I needed his help with carpooling the boys to activities, so I had to text him yesterday morning. Only 2-3 texts about it - civil and to the point
Friday - just got a phone call from H (first one in a very long time). We each take a son to school in the morning if he is in town. I drove one to school before he arrived, he drove S15 this morning but had to leave my garage door open because he couldn't get it to shut. Told me he asked S15 to text me about it but wanted to make sure I got it. (I didn't) So, we chatted civilly for a few minutes about the golf trip S15 and H are going on, what he packed and needed for the coach and school to leave early. Then, we talked logistics about getting S13 and S15 to their activities for the Spring. All was very civil. I ended the conversation by saying "well, I hope you have a good time and it doesn't rain the entire trip, talk to you later". I made an effort to end the conversation first and try to get off phone. Probably 8 minutes of talk about kids (he did tell me he was on way to his new house to meet the contractor).
I am not sure if we are edging towards "friends", which is why I probably need to reach out to a DB coach. I was just holding off because I don't really think this M has much hope. And, I was paying for IC which I am realizing hasn't been that effective for me.
The friends vs. civil coparents has been my biggest hurdle at the moment…..I certainly have no interest in being his friend. Maybe this feels too close to friends because we haven't been civil to each other since December….or, maybe I am not being as "short and sweet" as I should be. This was the first phone call we have had in probably 3-4 weeks. And, it didn't feel like H/W, it felt like casual friends. Ugh
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
