I didn't reply to the pen drive texts so this morning I wake up to three texts. First one saying hello, aren't you talking to me? Second advising me to wash S's coat and the third inviting me for lunch with her and S! I haven't replied, later on in the morning I'll just send back no thanks. As it happens I couldn't anyway but I feel this is the effect of dinner last Friday. W wants to feel that after me going very quiet that she has me back in the triangle. A close friend thinks she is delusional and feels guilty (sending S food etc). I'm sure OM wants nothing to do with a 15 year old teenager( especially after his own daughter has grown up and doesn't forgive him for the affair which ended his marriage the first time around! He's 57 after all) and is happy for W to do her family things at times when he is busy. I don't know when or if her R with him will change ( her psychologist said years ago that she was infatuated with him and couldn't see reality) but after 5 months trying to rebuild I'm not going back to the friend zone whenever it is convenient for her. Evenings and weekends is OM time. The first couple of months her sister and aunt told me she was finding it really hard. I don't know if that is still the case. I've stopped asking and taken everyone's advice to let her follow her own path. I'm just trying to stop her taking me with her when it suits her. When I went NC she noticed hence the Miss You messages. On with my own life for now.
