Agree 100%….one of my patterns that I finally figured out when I started posting on this board was I always went running to my H after my kids fell apart talking about the D. I realize now that was pushing H further away and I can't control him anyway. So, I stopped doing that the day I started on this board. But, you are right, it is very important to be able to look yourself and your children in the eye and know your tried everything you could to save your family and marriage.

M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16