Obviously, you are worth more than who you are married to. The fact that you are on this board trying to save your family and marriage shows that you are a good, loyal man with integrity. Now, you have to set some goals and do some GAL'ing. I am telling you that the worst thing that you can do is sit around with all that hurt and sadness. Honestly, you have to get moving. What did you always want to do that your spouse didn't? Line dancing, scuba diving, etc? Do you have work goals? How about running a 5K? When you are able to get out and do things and see you have a life without W that will help. Also, when you set and meet goals that will help too.
We cannot depend on others to make us happy (my H is doing that with me - he is unhappy, blames me and found an OW). We have to find a way to be happy with ourselves and our partner is there to enhance it IMHO. Make yourself the best version of you there is…..and be the best dad ever. I think that men who are great dads are that much more attractive. You can do this. You are stronger than you think.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
