Thanks Rouky, broke, Rednail & Thornton for all your suggestions.
I've definitely thought about volunteering, actually I was talking about it today and last Sunday at church. I agree its a good way to not focus on yourself.
Sometimes, my mind is completely not on H and my sitch, and then as soon as I remember him, or think about him or something I would tell him or anything for that matter, we're back to the hole.
And I wonder, am I going to have to deal with this for the rest of my life? This empty place in my heart that wants my H to be good to me and for my M to survive?
Mornings can be hard and at night I have to keep myself busy with a workout or something.
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."