Still hoping for progress

[Sparkls]

Thanks Sparkls for weighing in. I really appreciate it.

Of course. I know how hard this is. This whole week just has me sitting squarely in the gutter, feeling miserable and hopeless.
My IC explained best what I've been doing (and I think you're probably doing to). We've been presented with an ink blot of a person. And we're looking for something to make it make sense. We're trying to force logic into an entirely illogical situation.
And no matter what answer we come up with, it won't bring her back or make the pain less. Trust me, I've come up with hundreds of reasons.

If your W wants to move out, I think you let her. Since you have a kid, you at least have to have some contact. Every time you see her, be your best self. Be friendly, but don't push anything. When she's ready, she'll talk to you as long as you're presenting an open, non judgemental, not angry ear. If she is wayward, this will take a lot longer and you have to watch for signs of her cake-eating. But address that when you get there. For now, Just get through the next few days. And then the next. And then the next.