bigybiz, my problem was i got real complacent and essentially was sleepwalking through both my faith and my marriage. i went to church, i listened to christian music, i did all the stuff on the exterior a christian should do. but, i still didn't have a relationship with christ. i didn't pray daily [sometimes the only praying i did was at church], i didn't read the bible at all. same with my marriage. i did stuff around the house, i told my wife i love her, but i didn't show her i loved her like i should've. i took advantage of the fact that she would always be here even if i was emotionally distant. i treated my marriage more like a part time job than a lifetime commitment.
looking back now, i see it, it's so clear. but at the time, i was blind to it all.
M:36 W:31 D:12 M: 8/9/10 ILYBNILWY/"want space": 2/14-ish/16 W moved out 5/24/16.