JB, I just noticed your dates are almost the same as mine:

My BD November 18th, 2015, your BD - November 20th 2015
My wife filed for divorce February 8, 2016, your wife said she wants divorce Feb 7th 2016

Man, this is tough.

Me-LBH, 48
Spouse-WW, 48
Married for 19 years
Son, 12
BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding)
BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA)
WW filed D February 2016
WW moved out April 2016