Just found out 3 weeks ago - happy valentines day!

[LiM]

I'm scared too. I love my W and want the opportunity to make amends for my long list of faults. But I can't do it alone. And I can't do it if she's not remorseful for what she's done. She's got to be just as willing to be accountable for her actions and faults as I am. And her issues aren't limited to the A. We've both brought damage to the relationship and we've both got to be willing to do what is necessary to fix it.
I'm also afraid that she will go through whatever process she is doing and come out the other side not wanting to be with me. I can't fathom the thought of 20+ years going down the tubes. But I've realized I can't control her and that I need to make sure I'm ok not matter what the outcome. And honestly, I'm ready to move on if she's not ready to begin working on it