There is certainly a lot on your plate, the stresses of your divorce being out there, WH bull $hit, bills, work, uugh.
I really get a sense that helping folks here is maybe therapeutic for you,
Some times yes, on other occasions not so much.
or helps keep your mind off of things?
No, it focuses me.
I lnow that when i spent a ton of time here it actually got me down, between the constsnt bad news, influx of pain and the constant hopelessness i was seeing...i had to step away and spend less time here.
This was my response to Zues when he expressed his distress, and it seems appropriate and if and when you detach (as in your sitch,) then I believe this will change, the sense of distress will ease, in the same way that helping those who are going bankrupt or in fin problems staying calm and offering support assists, it's a growth.
Perhaps Zeph if you see yourself as an embryonic vet, that you consider that there is so much to learn and that coming to terms with this is YOUR journey, YOUR growth, YOUR wonderment, YOUR higher power.
This is not selfish, it is self-centred.
This is detaching beyond your sitch. It is allowing others to take from your posts what they will. I learned a very important lesson recently, very important, that was that others have the right to disagree and dismiss although they do not have the right to abuse or invalidate.
Being here is helping me learn and I get a great deal of feedback on my views. I am growing in my understanding daily.
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So this is my post:
I think Zues, I used to feel the same (about Newcombers sitches being distressing).
The waves of pain and hurt of the LBS.
I guess I detached, I think it's because the journey of the LBS has its rewards and it's healing. It is about a new dawn.
It is about resurrection, in general I see the LBS with the connection and shift, I read that despite the pain they emerge better parents, better lovers, better friends, more capable of healthy R, and a new M.
It is very very rare that the wayward (not walk away) has the better journey. And I am unconvinced that there is happiness in this.
So here in Newcombers there is higher turnaround, more pain, more dispair, more personal journey, and big big secret that you already know, progress and ultimately healing.
I find it encouraging and enlightening plus truly inspiring to be part off that journey. What a privilege and an honour. You more than most here have been consistent and loving in your posts. I have different views often, softer and more marshmallow, but my lovely Zues says it as it is.
I love all of the support and kindess snd the genuine growth that we see every day, and the help you give to folks is unbelievable ...these are.certainly rewarding things to see and hear, however maybe a reduced time from here for a little to try something else out to do.
I also am involved in my Gamanon group. I limit my time here to a maximum of an hour a day although I spend a further hour or so in personal development before I post.
Youve said you work a ton and go to gym and have a couple of other activites, glam sis what are your social gal activites?
I do cinema every Wednesday and I dance jive (Ceroc) regularly.
Idk, i am spittballing...you seem to understand everyone else so much better than i do you...is there something more you can find to do that you can count on for social engagement?
I go on courses and I understand differently. Two years ago I was blissfully ignorant of all of this and this is what my higher power needs of me.
I could be off base, i hate to hear you hurting ao i am just reaching.
I am reaching back. I also like sleep!! This is my journey and I accept it.
Big hugs for u V
And to you.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
what are your social gal activites? 