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[daybyday]

I would like some feedback from guys and gals about another scenario I thought of regarding WAW.

I did some bad DBing when sitch first happened and called her cousin just to see if she had any advice. She led off the conversation with "that's too bad.My H cheated on me and I forgave him...so on and so on." She didn't know about D until I called her but the conversation has always stuck in my head. Why would she tell me that? Could be nothing at all but saying that their marriage survived a bad thing and is strong, I don't know.

My thought is what if something happened a while back if not going on now, and WAW feels that she could never tell me for fear of D repercussions or S13 finding out or others? Maybe that she thinks I could never get past it and D is the only answer?

Is that something I could bring up to let her know that we could talk about anything that may have happened? I know she would probably deny if anything did happen, but to reassure that nothing is black and white and we could get through it if it happened.

Let me just say that this is by no means a last ditch effort to keep her from moving out as I am okay with that being the next step in DB, it's just something that came to mind that could possibly prevent her from opening up all the way. Any thoughts please?