Just saw the MIL convo. It is really good Red, do not throw away the friendship. There are many reasons for that. MIL is his mom and it is always good to have her on your side.
MIL is your kids grandma and will always be a part of your family.
MIL can help some day, who knows. You may need it because of the kids and she will be there to give you a hand.
All positive. Funny, my MIL said the same about XH, she even said that he was her son but she couldn't avoid to see that he was behaving like a Fool.
His family calls me, check on me and the boys, they really care. All good, it's not their fault that your H is being an idiot, just like she said.
And if you guys get back together, then there won't be hard feelings to repair.
**** Red,
Now, it is the woman talking to you. Outside any DB, without any masks or rules to get the H back or be better.
I wish I could sit right there with you and cry, then laugh. I too have this horrible pain inside my heart. I am strong, getting better, do a million things in the same time, my teenagers are good boys, everything is so nice.
But, and there is a painful but. I still cry in my car. I still cry once I am alone in my bedroom, it is very, very hard to face that life is different now.
There are some whys, what for, when, all questions without answers, one day I am up, up, up and away and the next I feel pain in my body for hiding the desire to just give up.
So, from the bottom of my heart I wish I can give you a big hug and we can cry a little together. No one deserve to be betrayed, no one deserve this pain, but it came to us and we need to make the most of it and learn what we can.
Sometimes I try to think that we are chosen to be in this situation, that life chose us so we could be even better human beings.
So, be gentle on yourself, glad you bought the outfit and shoes for yourself. That is a good way a real girl feel appreciated. Buy some lipstick next time. It makes wonders.
I love you like my daughter. You will be happy again Red, believe.
