Sorry you were feeling down last night, Hope. I miss the daily talks with my H about our mundane lives the most, too. My H said we were never friends, but that is what I seem to miss the most - the companionship and always knowing there was someone in my corner. I also loved the donut comment. I think it fits - some days the hole is large and others it is smaller.

Have you thought about maybe volunteering? I also agree with all of Rourky's great suggestions. The reason I mention volunteering is because yesterday I cleaned the garage and I never noticed the knot in my stomach for 2 hours! It was bliss. Of course, it was there, but I didn't feel it because I was so focused. I think volunteering would be a great way to focus on others and maybe not focus on our sitch as much. I am going to look into it for Mondays when divorce care ends and H has the kids those days.

Remember - no mind reading. I feel a lot like you do, Hope because it is the same amount of time that has passed as you. I often feel like he is happy with being alone (or with the OW, who knows?). But, I think mind reading (he doesn't want to be with me) or expectations (he said he would check in) just make us crazier!

Stay strong - thinking of you!


M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16