Where do we go from here Part 2

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So I did my IC today. And of course we talked about S. I caught him up on everything that occurred the last three weeks and what should I do about S. His basic advice was to maintain contact and a regular basis. To be a stable figure for him. NOT to talk about home issues to much (that he needs to view time with me as an oasis from problems). Follow his lead but also if I see him hurting to gently pull it out of him. Also not to appear that I am fishing for info about mom through him. Which I do not do. Finally, that I should not shy away from talking about the custody process with him. According to IC S needs to know the reality of it bc he only understands the fantasy.

About WW IC said I see a very angry WW. She is not happy about where she is and the A is self medicating. He said the problem is as long as the A goes on she will not deal with her own problems and the emotions will continue and the damage will continue to get worse. He reminded me "hurt people tend to hurt people." And since she "lost" me the kids will take the hits. He said the scary thing about all of this she is hurting herself through her own decisions and he doesn't know when or if she will stop and IT COULD GET WORSE. He said he thinks her own pride gets in her way to recovery.

Then he advised me that he is retiring at the end of July.

So what should I take from this. I guess I am doing right by S that I am not pressuring the counseling. I do need to keep it lighter and breezier for S and our drives to and from practice should not just be heavy talking. I need to try and joke with him. He also said me reaching out to tell him I love him, and just texting him is good. However, he has to acclimate to where he is to and deal with his pain and fears. Personally that sounds like a horrible things for a S13.

Well anyway this counseling appointment was far better than the others I have had.