I think it is great you are putting your kids and their relationship with their mom first. You are already on the high road, so take that with you and your kids to the hospital and ignore any other outside noise (or OM). Quiet resolve and strength - you've got this

M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16