That was probably a mistake on my part but I have a belief that if you aren't doing something right then someone will take your place. I know it's not the best belief but I'm just being honest. I feel after the First A I put most or all on the blame on myself.
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We've been together since we were 16 (high school sweethearts). The MR was great in the beginning but with our careers and kids and finances we lost track.
Young love can turn into mature love, but not without some growing pains.....IMHO. At sixteen, you both had a lot of growing up left to do. What I discovered in my own situation was that the individual people change, and you will either grow up together or you will grow apart as a couple. Neither of you are the same as you were at sixteen. In a coule of decades, you will see that you are still changing. Changes in life causes us to change as a person. Just getting old can present a lot of changes within itself. So a couple will experience different stages in their relationship together.
I went through a period where I actually grieved for the young man I had loved and M. I still miss him, and I know he will never return. I will either love this man he has become, or be unhappy and have strife. Lord knows, I am not the same as I was at eighteen! If my H thought I wasn't good enough and he should replace me..........he would be right, however, in growing up you also learn that replacing for a newer model isn't always the solution. Some things just can't beat the original.
Today I see so many young families who are consumed with busy lives. Couples are too busy with careers and activities with their children. There is no time just for the two of them. When there's no time, then someone's emotional needs are not going to be met and then other issues arise. Marriage seems to be more challenging these days.
I hope you will stick with us. Don't give up.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
