She's thinking of leaving again 4

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Detachment is more about the here and now I think. And I also think being detached could give you a better chance of R in the longer term, so I certainly don't see it as giving up all hope of possible R. If we think of MLC for example, the actions of the average MLCer can be incredibly upsetting and if you remained closely emotionally 'attached' to the MLCer, you would be devastated time and time again - to the extent that you would probably give up on the R out of self preservation. If we let go of that investment in someone for now and release them and ourselves to live our lives - who knows how things may turn out in the longer term? GAL helps us do this as we come to feel we have many things in our life outside of our R with the WAS.

Hope this helps...and Scrant sorry for the debate on your thread....feel free to boot us off if it's not of interest to you.... xx