Feeling lost

[srt]

I should mention we have been in counselling for a few months, and it hasn't really made any progress so far, other than W initially aired her grievances, said she could not "forgive" them, and now states she does not want to come back or "try again".

Our counselling is not overtly pro or against any relationship, which annoys me, but tbh if it was pro I think she'd see right through it and either shut down or not attend.

I'm going at the moment not from a sense that I expect anything to change but rather that I'm willing to demonstrate I care, I'm prepared to change, and value the relationship.

The counsellor already know what I want to achieve, I'm just trying not to accelerate any "negative" changes from my perspective if W wants to change things from current separation.