Just found out 3 weeks ago - happy valentines day!

[LiM]

I've seen you mention "VAR" a couple of times? What is that? Is that a voice activated recorder? If so, that's how I busted my W.

I've not given any kind of ultimatum. You aren't supposed to do that with the DB process. But I have my own mental ultimatum. I'm going to give it a couple of more weeks and then I'm going to have a conversation with her. One of the things I need to know is if she is going to be able to completely sever her relationship with the OM. I don't think there is a continuing PA but she still communicates almost daily via his groups FB page. Sometimes, they comment to each other but most of the time its communicating with the group. But that's a non starter for me. I don't care if she socializes and works out with the other athletes but it must be completely outside of that group. She must never see him, talk to him, visit his FB page or wear their team colors or logos. Its just too painful for me. If she can't sever that relationship, that's fine. But for me, it will be time to file for D and move on with my life.