The last few days I've really reflected on everything as a whole and the latest EA was because I settled in a state of things are ok but we still fought and argued a lot. Which I feel drove her to talk to someone else.
So you are telling me that because you fought a lot that was why she had an affair?
I guess I must disagree. Fighting in a marriage is OK, it is how you make up.
What were you fighting about? Her affair?
So your communications was bad, I think that was the problem.