Thank you for answering. You are definitely showing your strengths and its awesome. Proud of you beautiful!
You are mastering the DB concept and doing all you can (and that's a lot already) to be a better you. I am amazed of how fast things move for you. And you have two little ones.
I always come from the place of caring. So, it always takes me a while to determined that someone is bad or doing bad at that moment. That's why I question your H's attitude towards you.
I really believe that his A will pass. Some Rs start very wrong and they are more likely to fade with time. At the beginning there is a lot of "new" but then people start showing their true colors and things go sour.
What you are doing is exactly what you should, need, must to do for yourself and your kids. Keeping your distance from him is very good, you are protecting your heart and your well being.
Just be caution that he will react to what is happening, he is not blind and he is seeing the changes. He also knows that you are young and can rebuild your life with someone else.
But all that is his problem, and he will need to put the hard work to gain your trust and your heart back. Try as much as you can do not give in to his charms, he will try it.
Right now, your position is empowering you to even put some boundaries about how he approaches you. No more hands everywhere, no more good wife waiting for him. Boundaries seem like the worse thing and feels like you are pushing him away, but it is only when we set the boundaries that they start seeing we are not just playing around, that we are actually respecting ourselves.
Be patient, continue in your path with all what life is offering you right now. You have a good plan. Let him be, things will turn for the worse with him and around him. With time he will realize his mistakes. He will probably go into phases, cycles. If you keep being strong as you are, he will finally realize how stupid he was.
You go girl. Can't say enough how a beautiful butterfly you are becoming, right in front of our eyes.
