Thanks for all the ideas. I think that just saying a straight no would come across as being a bit of a jerk. However she has asked for one specific series. I have plenty of others which I know she'd like but I'm not going to mention or add them on. I would have done so in the past but not now. Also I'll give S the pen drive when I get around to it., there's no hurry. I don't have to speak about it with her, just pass them to S and go back to NC. I've only answered one of her various texts this morning. Her questions about S I haven't answered as that is for him to do. After our meal last week she is trying to up the contact to bring things back to normal after almost two months without meeting. I notice she only texts from work, not at times when she's at home like the weekend. When she sent me the miss you text one night I'm sure that was OM's sports evening. I assume all the kisses and miss yous, hugs etc are to check I'm still there. I don't tell her most of what I do and nor does S. After her comments that the separation was good for me and I'm a different person ( really? She said I was the best person she knew when she left me!) I'm happy to keep out the way for now and let her do her own thinking.
