Mine is the same boat - I have the evidence, so I know she has THAT worry hanging over her head. Yet, I really don't need leverage that much only because my kids are a lot older. My MC said the only thing exposure would do that this point is completely destroy any chance of reconciliation.
She currently is in IC as well. Its helping her see where she went wrong, but its also making her open her eyes to see WHY she did it. And there's the dilemma: Why does a woman who supposedly loves her husband develop an intimate relationship with a male coworker? Does this mean she doesn't love her husband? Does this mean the marriage was potentially a sham? She's asking herself a LOT of questions now and it makes ME think: Does she want to even be married? This infidelity caused her to do a LOT of insight now, things she may have rugswept in the past but now wants to deal with. Is it a fog? I dunno. I'm incredibly impatient and want answers NOW, and this is one the hardest things to wait out for. I hate limbo.
I feel for you - have you given any kid of ultimatum with her?
Me: 52 Her: 48 2D 26 & 16 M: 25 years (together 30) EA/discovered by accident Valentines day 2016 Admitted SOME physical but no IC. We know that's a lie. Status - tryin to R
