Hanging in there with hope

[Sotto]

Hi Tam, I think that sounds fine - and yes I think he probably is trying to string you along. He has been cake-eating thus far and you have let him. I'm pleased to see you with more healthy boundaries and It's always best not to offer the reassurance of - yes I'm here waiting. I wonder whether with his 'is that appropriate' he was seeking a response from you that might give him that reassurance? It's best to truly and solidly be moving forward with your own life and plans - for you! There is nothing to lose if you do that. He may or may not turn back, you know?

It sounds like you did well in the main part, and maybe next time proffer a cheek if he seems to be moving in for a kiss, or if a hug - hug him like you would your grandpa. And yes, now you have suggested he may not want to drop by for a while, go completely dark and plan some nice GAL for yourself.

You're doing really well & take care xx