Hi G , no one minds when you vent , that's normal I think one of the biggest things we have to accept is that our sitchs are not unique. Of course we all have twists and some are much worse than others but yours is not one of the bad ones
Can we look at the positives ,
4 beautiful kids A full time job that you love Your health Food on the table A chance to improve you
That's a whole lot more than many others
The positives in your sitch
W is not being the worst, No OM shoved in your face Your have full access to your kids finically you will be ok
Read some sitchs on here G and the pain people are put through is more than I could take My point is be grateful for what you do have as opposed to what you don't.
We all completely get how you feel , really we do. My Ws hair has started falling out , she has no money and is on anti Ds , I love this woman and have to stand by and let her continue down her path BECAUSE it's NER CHOICE It breaks my heart to see her this way. She was a strong , independent person and now she's like a shell of her former self but I have no choice I help were I can and if asked but other than that I let her get on with it
This is what we are trying to get you to understand , we all feel your pain and get why you are where you are emtionally and want to to slow down , listen to the advice and follow DB I've been on here for well over a year and seen lots of people come and go and whatever happens in their sitch, it takes time , a long time and that's what you need to accept
Your W is 100% certain life will be better without you and maybe she's right or maybe she's wrong but either way she is determined to see That's crap for you and terrible for the kids BUT the kids will learn to cope and you will too.
Again , we all know how you feel , if we didn't we wouldn't be on this site In the first place Accept what is and let W do her own thing Improve G for Gs sake and live your life One day you will see W is not your whole world , it just seems that way right now
Today's a new day G , how about from today own , G accepts his reality and live accordingly , the pain will lesson with time and hard work on your part
