It's funny there had been IC talk lately and people questioning theirs. Add me to the pile. Saw mine today and she offered no real advice or guidance. Said that I am so much better than when I started coming to see her. Not she really did anything but suggest meds. It was a person to listen.
One thing she does ask though is why after an A would I still take her back? I don't think she gets it. At the end of today she asked if I feel like I need to come back. I asked if she thinks i need to. She said its up to me. So I think I may be done with her.
Find someone that helps you broke. That you feel comfortable with.
Wow. I'm always amazed by how many people are literally thinking and feeling the same exact things that I am! For a few weeks now, I've been feeling like my IC is not offering any real help, advice or guidance and is just an unbiased person that will listen. Of course, this feeling always become stronger the night before I'm supposed to see her and weighing the cost of that with the cost of having a roof over my head (yeah, it's come down to that). I think I also cling to her b/c she has met my H and inside me, it's nice to interact with someone who knows my H b/c everyone else that knows him the way I do is nowhere to be found (except for his family).
Originally Posted By: broke
Agreed….I think my time and money can be better spent reading or studying for my teaching tests. So, I am going to take a break and, if I decide I really need to go back, I will find someone interested in helping me monitor the goals that I set and if I am achieving them. It's been so random about what we talk about, too. Seems like there should be some continuity but there really isn't. Its almost like she can't remember where we are week to week…..again, I question if she is even invested in me. Or, I am just an appointment until the next one.
Broke, I'm starting to see the value in that. I've learned so much own my own by God and self-realization, and yes, my IC has definitely helped me come to an awareness of things I may not have seen, but I almost feel like if I had to choose, and I do, DB Coach is what I really need at this point for actionable steps to take for me and for my M. Maybe this realization is all apart of the healing process for all of us....
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."
