i think it's important to remember your W's perspective is her reality. So even if you weren't controlling, to her it feels real.
I have the same issue with my WW, especially after D-Day. Before then, she never complained about me "controlling." I fall under the Nice Guy category, even though I have a strong personality I never try to "boss" over her.
After I confronted her with her EA, however, she always accuses me of being "controlling" to her friends. Part of it is justification for leaving me. The other part of it is because she no longer feels necessary to be my wife. For instance, I used to always ask her, "So, what were you up to today?" on Fridays, because she gets the day off. Now, she always claim to her friends that I'm "stalking" her...
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
