Looking for a Spark in the dark 3

[broke]

I think every situation is an individual one…I don't think you can really generalize. I do think that you are having a really bad day today. And, I am so sorry that you are….the bomb only dropped a few weeks ago, so it makes sense that you are having a rough one.

Honestly, Sparks, I could barely function the first two months after my H told me that he wasn't happy and thought he wanted a D. It would take hours to fall asleep then I would wake up at 3 or 4 and not be able to fall back asleep. Then, I would drop off the kids at school and come back home and try to cry myself to sleep. Then, I would get up and pick up the kids from school. I lived in yoga pants, didn't eat and lost 27 pounds. The reason I am telling you this is because you make me look like a wimp! You have DB'ed when he came to get his clothes and when he "stole" the video games. You are out GAL'ing (I didn't do that until 3 months in).

Of course, you are going to have bad days….I say cry your heart out, drink some wine, watch bad reality tv, anything to get to bedtime and NOT contact your WH. Try to sleep, tomorrow is another day to wake up and start DB'ing. Take a heartsick break tonight and get back at it tomorrow.

Truly I think you are doing very well….especially for how soon it is in your situation. You are stronger than you know and give yourself credit for. I can't wait to see where you "match" this week. Keep going, Sparkles, you can do this.