Vanilla -

Thank you for explaining it. That helps a lot. I am completely on board with discussing my goals, talking about how I am going to achieve them and checking in to see if I am on the right track. That is exactly what I am looking for. Maybe I need to make that clear with my current IC and determine if she can meet my expectations or not. If not, I think I need to "interview" them on the phone to see if they can accommodate that approach. Otherwise, I think I am just talking randomly and spinning my wheels….which doesn't seem like progress moving forward.

And, I love your suggestions of how I can help myself. I already read tons of books and attend courses. I am thinking a meditation course may be a good one to try next. And, I really need to start watching these TED talks - many have recommended them.


M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16