Also, for most women they have to have an EA before PA. They won't have sex with you unless they feel emotionally attached to you. I'm sure you find the same thing with your wives too.

That would be why I think PA is worse than EA.

Me-LBH, 48
Spouse-WW, 48
Married for 19 years
Son, 12
BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding)
BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA)
WW filed D February 2016
WW moved out April 2016