Just found out 3 weeks ago - happy valentines day!

[LiM]

I have no idea if the PA is still ongoing. I don't think it is but who the hell knows. I have no reason to think it isn't. She DID start going back over to house to train 2 weekends ago after not training at all for 2 months. She is definitely still talking with him via posts on his training groups FB page. He took a selfie with him and 4 other athletes (including my W) the day she started going back over there and the next day, my W took a selfie with him and one other person when he was running a marathon. She didn't run but went to cheer on a bunch of the athletes. There are probably 30 or more people that are actively involved in the training group (there are 80 people that follow that page). Her entire social network revolves around that group so that make my situation so much more difficult. If she is to have NC with him, she basically can't have any contact with any of those people because HE is that group. It not like he's just some random trainer at a 24 hour fitness. Its HIS group and it all revolves around him.

Detaching isn't going to push her back to the OM. If she goes back to the OM, its not because you detached. Its because she is emotionally weak, resentful, rebellious, disrespectful and has a heart full of contempt. She's got to fix that. In the mean time, you have to work on YOU. Become the man you KNOW you can be. The man she would be a fool to leave!