Wife wants to leave but still at home 2

[CWOL]

Looking for advice....

This weekend is the first weekend the W has the kids. We only have one car and W wanted to share it. As I have been re-finding myself and becoming the man I was before while improving my faults, I had said to her that I didn't feel sharing the car was going to work and that if she felt she needed one to get herself a second car. My normal kind and considerate self in this situation has thought of leaving her the car for the weekend for the sake of the kids, I know she doesn't really deserve kindness but I want to be a good role model for my kids and make it easier on them. I had thought of just leaving it at her place early Saturday morning with a note saying I needed back for Monday morning. I am mostly planning on working on my house this weekend and I can find another way to go out on Saturday night liked I planned. However, if I do this, am I being a fool and making her decision to leave the family easier? I guess I feel if she was a WAW I would but for a WW I should not.

I'll defer to the veterans on your question.
But I'll give you a similar story. My WW was telling me her leaving me was all about "finding herself." Etc. etc. After 3 weeks of no turning around, I told our friends about her EA. She got livid with me and told me she's done with me. A week later she was hit in her parking lot. Guess who she called first? Of course, I was using advice from another forum and trying to nice myself away from D. I helped her set up her repair appointment, drove the car there for her, and got the rental car set up.

After all is said and done, she was not appreciative in the least. I think this is what distinguishes a WW versus a WAW. Later on when we got into an argument (which I should not have, not DB and I should have detached, but that was before I found this site). I brought this example up as her dependency and how I'm trying to help her. Do you know what she told me? "I never asked for your help, I could have done it myself!"

So the moral of the story is you should just let her deal with the situation herself. Don't do anything to help her leave your family.