Inevitable always happens

[keefa]

Yep almost identical !
Yes there was OM but I guess that's blown out now as she is on dating websites. I honestly think about it during the day but it bothers me about as much as a nettle sting.
Yep had the we can be friends. She was shocked when we sat in our one and only mediation session back in August (she wouldn't go to any more as it was made clear she wasn't going to get the D all her own way) she speculated on spending the next few Christmases as a family on Christmas day and how we can all be friends.
I looked at her straight and asked her if she would be ok if I brought my girlfriend too as I imagined in 14 or 15 months time that it would be likely i'd have met someone. She was shocked. It made me realize she just couldn't see what was happening all around her. I don't think she can even now.
She was also not that confident except in the small circle she has found herself in comprised of pure gossip mongers and school gate politics. Its made her popular to her face but talked about. These are people we (she) chose NOT to socialise with for some years but now they are best friends. Odd.
I had a meeting with the head mistress at the school after i attended a parents evening and described that I was being denied access. The head and the boys teachers were shocked I referred to her affair as they had only had just one story of course. I never intentionally went for exposure but I did act to put a stop to slander. I think she was scared about her reputation and what i would do to expose it all but I've done nothing. As you say, former best friend. The person I see now is nothing like the person I knew. My L however is an incredible man, wise, calm, and keeps me grounded. He has his sights on the bigger picture, ie custody and finances.He is always calm, doesn't rise to the other L's games and doesn't let me get involved in pettiness which is a real blessing. I remain Calm, polite, professional and courteous, always on time, always do what I say I will do. This is for me and my boys and no one else.
I've no doubt stbxw will regret things in the future but she has arrogance in abundance and that will see her through to her new life and not let her imagine for a second that she has done anything wrong.