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[mahhhty]

YES There is an issue!!!! Every other weekend she gets him for the Saturday and Sunday. Every other weekend you only get him for Saturday.

This is what I have.

Mon & Tues - Always with the X
Wed & Thur - Always with Me
Fri - Sun - Swaps back and forth

This schedule normalizes itself every two weeks.

[CWOL]

YES There is an issue!!!! Every other weekend she gets him for the Saturday and Sunday. Every other weekend you only get him for Saturday.

This is what I have.

Mon & Tues - Always with the X
Wed & Thur - Always with Me
Fri - Sun - Swaps back and forth

This schedule normalizes itself every two weeks.

Good catch!
To be fair, she proposed I have her schedule originally, but I wanted to switch to the second half of the week.
That sounds like a better schedule, I'll give that a shot, thanks!

[mahhhty]

Glad to help. Good luck. Those are some tough conversations.

[CWOL]

Glad to help. Good luck. Those are some tough conversations.

I was thinking about the number of switches. Is it better to switch alternate weeks? To keep it simple and less moves for my S11? We asked him but he has really no concept of what we are talking about. It's still too hypothetical as WW has stayed in the house even though she filed D a month ago.

[mahhhty]

Do you want to go a week without seeing your S? My answer to that question was no. Therefore, I am okay working through the multiple switches.

[CWOL]

Yes, that is what S asks about, I think that's why he prefers the swap. Ok, I'll run with it.

[CWOL]

WW agreed with my proposal of mahhhty's schedule, thanks mahhhty! Not sure when she is really going to move out now, she is very suspicious and hides most of the things she's working on on the D. (After I discovered her secret plan to D while gaslighting me!) It is going to be a tough time, that's for sure. Not sure what other moves she's planning though. I think she's trying to file a motion to get relief on getting spousal support. Why can't she just have her lawyer negotiate with mine!

WW is so difficult now. We used to wave goodbye to each other in the morning as I drive S11 to school (for the past five years). Now she hides behind the door to wait until I drive off to wave to S11. It's so childish and petty.

S11 had a great game last night, blasted a ball to the fence for a triple and pitched two scoreless innings in relief. His baseball confidence has really come back since a low last year when I discovered WW's betrayal. WW and I both agree it was because of the stress of her A. I would hate for him to lose it once WW moves out and the new reality sets in for everyone. I've got the cameras on for every game waiting for him to hit his first over-the-fence homerun! Came very close last night.

[TimR]

CWOL that is great for your son! Mine right now is in an extremely low right now too. Your story has really given me some hope! Thank you so much for sharing.

Also great to hear that she agreed to your proposal!

I hope everything goes well for your son and he does not regress. Make sure you give him additional support and love!

[CWOL]

Thanks Tim. As you probably know by now, raising kids is not a linear path. They ebb and flow without consistency. Once you extricate your son from your WW's manipulation I'm sure he will thrive with your guidance and nurturing.

My S11 plays both Little League and travel ball, he just loves baseball. He has worked really hard but hitting has been his weak spot since last year, as the pitchers get stronger and faster. He goes to batting practice three or four times a week and always crushes the ball in the cage. But in games with pressure situations he gets intimidated, especially with the loss of confidence from what's going on at home. I told him to keep working on it and it will come.

The last couple weeks he has really come around, he's gained confidence at the plate and had some really solid hits. It is so rewarding to see the happy smile on his face when he really nails a pitch!

[CWOL]

On the legal front, WW agreed by email to my proposed 2-2-3 custody schedule. This way we will both get to spend overnights with DS every week.

However, it appears her attorneys are trying to file something today or tomorrow with the court for support. They are not working with my attorney at all, it seems like they want to run to the court for everything. Is this normal? I thought usually we work out a separation agreement before all that is done, then take it to the court to get blessed?

WW is still living at home, we are cordial but it is tense. We have not verbally discussed anything about M or R since last week about mediation. It seems like she won't move out until the support schedule is finalized...?

DS has a Talent Show performance doing taekwondo tonight, we will be going together and probably go out to dinner afterwards.