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[sandi2]

Thinking of pulling a... I want to flip the script and make her think I am breaking up with her. I am tired of her saying, "just because YOU don't want a divorce doesn't mean xxxxx" I think I am beyond LRT anyways. I know that I need to set her free (for myself) and drop the rope

Why do you think you are beyond the LRT? How do you see the LRT? Isn't that why you're wanting to give this speech, b/c you think it's your last resort?

Ordinarily I am usually one who encourages the LBH to act as if he is dropping his wayward W. However, I just don't get a good vibe here, and I think it is b/c you are desperately trying to find the right trick that turns her around. I think most LBH'S experience this feeling. They want to bypass all this stuff they see other posters doing and find something that works a lot quicker and will end the pain.

In another post you listed reasons for wanting to give Gucci's speech, and you have said you need to take action b/c you have been inactive throughout this ordeal. From my point of view I am not seeing action. I am seeing a LBH talking, again, to his WW and hoping his words will work this time in changing her mind. Frankly, the speech sounds a bit manipulative to me. And if your W has accused you of controlling........she will see this being more of the same. You are trying to bluff her out of filing for D, and I am concerned this will backfire. Maybe it's the part about telling her that if she wants to work on the real issues then you are willing, IDK. I mean, it sounds as if you could care less in some places (to the point of rudeness), and looking back to see if she's going to reconsider in other places.

If you give this speech........and she doesn't do what you are hoping........then what will you pull out of your bag?

I am not saying to tell her anything, but if you insist on taking this route, at least make it sound like something from you.......and not another man's words.