Some call this limbo, since I am Catholic I call it purgatory. Purgatory is much closer to hell and that is where we are. In purgatory you must answer for you sins before you can ascend.
I have the same feelings Sparkls, what is rock bottom? do or will they come back? why am I not seeing it? were they always this person and I a fool who didn't see it? And will I be like Thornton by the time she wants to come back it will be too late cause that will be the ultimate tragedy.
All I can tell you Sparkly is that we cannot focus on those burning questions because they do us no good. Regardless of what happens we have to deal with the person in the mirror (get the MJ reference). We will be just wasting time in purgatory if we are doing nothing to better ourselves and will spend that much longer in purgatory... Sorry I know you are not religious and I generally do not speak of religion but just thought it fitting.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16