Its 'Normal' that it happens but I couldn't call it rational behaviour ! I've been accused of so many things, and I have taken steps to defend and protect myself every time it happens. The sad thing is that my stbxw has done it in such a malicious way that there is now no way forward for her and she is backed into a corner both legally and emotionally. Most of her supporters if not all do not know about her affair, and of course there support adds to the strength of her own convictions. I imagine this is common. Any reason for it not to be her fault, made up or not, becomes real in her mind. I've recently learned this, and had been continuously blaming myself. I'm not acting the good guy. I'm not acting the bad guy. I treat what she does like a mildly annoying work colleague and don't give her anything. I'm not cold, but smile, act confident and take what ever she wants to throw on the chin, report it quietly to my L if I need to or just let it go and carry on GAL. Hope....thats the real arse. I STILL wonder if my 'real' wife will appear again but every L letter, every act like seeing her on a dating site is just one step closer to absolute end. This is hard for me to accept and level with but I am. I just wondered if it is the same for you ? At what point do you let go ?
me45,W43 S9,S5 T15yrs M10yrs BD 4/07/15 W wants D 4/07/15 W filed 8/05/15 D petition arrived 21/12/15 Merry xmas, W,S5 S9 moved out 5/2/16
