Instead of saying "I think it is probably too late to save the M because H has filed for D, bought a new house and told our sons that the divorce is moving forward.".... Try saying "I would really like for my marriage to work out but if not, I know I will find happiness and thrive".
^^^That simple mindset can really change your persepective. I notice when I talk about how down I'm feeling, or when I complain to someone about W, that it sets the tone for my thinking and behavior.
All that we are is the result of what we have thought - Buddha
^^^think about that quote for a minute.
When we think negatively, we attract more negativety.
The human mind is so incredibly powerful. If we can learn to harness it's power, we can do amazing things with our thoughts and feelings.
Now, let me be clear.. I am no where near perfect at this stuff. But I strive and try hard to change my thinking. And when I'm successful, it REALLY DOES WORK!
Believe that you are going to ok, because you will be.
And yes, you still do have a good chance of getting H back into your life. It might not be on your time frame, but it's very much a possibility.
In the meantime, time takes time.. Make the most of it.
