This weekend is the first weekend the W has the kids. We only have one car and W wanted to share it. As I have been re-finding myself and becoming the man I was before while improving my faults, I had said to her that I didn't feel sharing the car was going to work and that if she felt she needed one to get herself a second car. My normal kind and considerate self in this situation has thought of leaving her the car for the weekend for the sake of the kids, I know she doesn't really deserve kindness but I want to be a good role model for my kids and make it easier on them. I had thought of just leaving it at her place early Saturday morning with a note saying I needed back for Monday morning. I am mostly planning on working on my house this weekend and I can find another way to go out on Saturday night liked I planned. However, if I do this, am I being a fool and making her decision to leave the family easier? I guess I feel if she was a WAW I would but for a WW I should not.
I know she needs to face the reality of her decisons and I have done many things for her that she is now complaining that she didn't want me to do so much. That she wanted to be involved but for years but said she didn't like doing. I want to be able to look in the mirror and like what I see but don't want to be seen to be weak and giving into her wants. I find it's such a complex balance. She has not asked about the car in several weeks but has told her family that I'm being difficult about it. Any thoughts welcome.
