hurt and angry part deux

[mleigh4]

When my H got flaky with my son, like Hawho, I told him daddy is going through something right now that makes him a little sad and forgetful. I explained that he needs some time to himself, but told him, over and over, that it had nothing to do with him, that he did nothing wrong. That is the big thing for me, I hate for children to think it is because of them. I also gave him extra attention and spent all my time with him until I noticed him get more stable and comfortable with the situation.

I find honesty as the best approach, children are way smarter than they get credit for. Acting as if everything is normal could confuse them. Validate their feelings.

I think it's great they are sleeping together, it should be a comfort for them. Great news about your son too! I know it's hard, but don't forget about taking care of yourself in between.