Now, the real work begins...Part III

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Thornton and Tim,

Thank you for always being part of my support on this board. I am so appreciative and I value your opinions and feedback.

No, I cannot imagine marrying someone that cheated and starting our R based on lies, deceit and destroying another family. And, I could never be a cheater - the guilt would destroy me.

I also cannot imagine meeting my next spouse at divorce care especially since there is only one very sweet, very young man in our group. Lol! Maybe if I met someone similar to the great guys that I have "met" on this forum :-).

But, I know that I am not even close to wanting to start another relationship with someone else. I compromised a lot to be in my marriage (which I think is healthy), but I also think I became codependent (which isn't healthy). So, I need to find my voice again, figure out the line between compromise and codependency and know what I want before I go out to look for it. I am a long way off from being the best version of me. And, right now, my boys deserve my undivided attention because they need me more than I need anyone else.

I hope that all of us have a good day DB'ing tomorrow….hopeful the beautiful weather stays, too.