Just found out 3 weeks ago - happy valentines day!

[LiM]

My W moved out, rented a house (that costs almost as much as our mortgage) and filled it with new furniture. I'm sure she's racking up an enormous amount of debt. She actually makes more money than me. She has plenty of money but not enough to support her triathlon stuff. That's probably what makes her angry and is why she is wanting me to get a part time job (which I'm not going to do).
She had been planning to separate but I found out about the A before she planned on moving out. I think she probably planned on moving out about a month later. So I sent her packing to a motel.

I'm glad you are taking care of yourself. Exercise is a great way to deal with the stress. I've lost almost 30 pounds since our separation began and I really didn't need to lose that much. I've been working out almost daily but most of the weight loss is likely due to stress.

Its clear that she's hurting. Let her. Stop being clingy and needy. It won't help you.
Only you can decide if you want her back and if you want to work on your R. In the meantime, detach and work on YOU. I can see you are already doing a good job. It hard. Almost impossible at times. But you have it in you to do it. You ROCK THOSE ABS man!