What the heck is this?

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I had to text h last night and ask him to call me when he got up (big time difference) because I needed to talk to him about office stuff away from the office. I hated doing that because I'm trying not to initiate contact.

He called and I apologized for asking him to get into business mode first thing in the morning and explained the issue. We discussed and then I apologized again for interrupting his morning routine. I've interrupted his life over there before (for legitimate business reasons) with not so nice results.

When he called into the office this morning (his evening) he asked, "Didn't I talk to you this morning?" I chuckled and said yes and that if he didn't remember it might not be a good thing. I don't know if he was joking or if his mind was so muddled he really didn't remember it clearly. He launched into all his troubles getting his new apartment set up which I really didn't want to hear, but I listened and validated, saying it sounded like a difficult day. He agreed and I again told him I was sorry for making him address business stuff before his first cup of coffee. He than started telling me it was no problem and I could interrupt his coffee time anytime I wanted. Yeah ... right.

He then went on to say he had been invited out to some social event but he was going to stay home, have a couple of beers and watch TV and if we needed anything, just text him. Again, been there, done that, won't do it again unless it's a dire emergency.

I'm trying to make it clear to him that I do not want to invade his life over there. But, I'm beginning to get the impression that he's asking me to do just that. I'm trying to figure out if it a case of him wanting me to pursue or something else, like showing friendship ... I don't know. I'm confused about what he wants and what I should do.

I still find it fascinating that he goes on and on about his day and never asks any specifics about what I've been doing, how the family is,, etc. I don't volunteer anything. The conversations are so one-sided. It's hard for me to comprehend that he doesn't see that. Maybe he does. IDK.

I don't know if I'm doing the right thing here. I'm trying to back off and not interfere in his life. Is it right to show little to no interest? Should I be asking "safe" questions that aren't prying or pursuing? Or is it better to remain distant and disinterested?

I've also been very closed mouthed about what I do here. Maybe I've gone too far. I tell him nothing ... not even that I saw such and such movie. Is that wrong? I sometimes think I need to tell him some of that stuff just to let him know that my life is going on since he's not here to see it. Then other times I think that it may be better to let him wonder what I'm up to ... he'll find out in due time without me announcing it. My gut says that is the way to go, but not entirely sure.

I cut out of the office early today and headed to the nail salon for a pedicure. My toenails are now a beautiful shade of purple. I just wish we had weather warm enough for sandals so I could show them off.

I hope this post hasn't been too "all over the place" to be clear. My mind seems to be a little off kilter tonight for some reason.