Talked to my lawyer, there is a couple ways I can do this. I can start the claim against her and have everything done however a judge will not grant a divorce judgment until one year after seperation. So I can be set up, just not final.

However there is 2 ways around that. 1. One of us has to sign a sworn affidavit that they committed adultery. Or 2 that one person inflicted physical or emotional pain on the other.

It's not what I wanted to do. I had hope. After today tho I think it's best for me to give up and move on. I doubt she will sign anything about adultery, and I asked if it specifies physical or emotional affair and it doesn't. As long as someone signs it they don't care what it was.

So I am going to find time to meet. Get things going if I can and as soon as I can she will have the papers. I don't want to deal with this crap anymore

The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.