Well, she'll be here before you know it. It's going to get very interesting to see just how this plays out. If your xh thinks his life was miserable before, just you wait and see how it will be w/her hounding him day in and day out for that marriage license and ring on her finger.
The karma bus better keep right on going thru Long Island and right into the ocean.
I'm very sorry that you and your family had to hear this news.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.