I can't stop the obsessive thoughts in my head. If i do a separation and leave my house. Can I stop my wife from bringing OM into my house overnight while kids are there.
Nope. That's why we tell you not to leave a house without talking to a divorce lawyer first. Google "men's right divorce" and you'll see all the reasons for not doing that. Too many dads cave into their wives and do the "honorable thing" then get screwed out of custody and child support.
We've all been there, I'm fighting the same cold wife you are fighting as well. You've got to protect yourself, for your and your children's sake.
I'm pretty sure your wife is having an EA, just like mine. Look deeper for the signs.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
