Wife says she wants a separation or divorce ASAP. I move out or she moves out with (kids). Is here stance. She says she is having panic attacks and that I got to get away from her immediately. I'm looking at getting a apartment, but if I do I told her we've got to see a lawyer to fill out some sort of separation agreement. FLORIDA doesn't have a legal separation law. Any thoughts. I don't want to make things any harder on my kids if possible.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
I can't stop the obsessive thoughts in my head. If i do a separation and leave my house. Can I stop my wife from bringing OM into my house overnight while kids are there.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
Those are questions that your lawyer needs to answer. You also need to ask if moving out of your home will affect you in a divorce or child custody. You need a lawyer who will fight for the rights of a father!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I cannot believe the person my wife has turned into. I know I have my part in this, but she is so cold. I'm having such a hard time detaching. I've never felt this hopeless in my life.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
I cannot believe the person my wife has turned into. I know I have my part in this, but she is so cold. I'm having such a hard time detaching. I've never felt this hopeless in my life.
Right there with you....
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
I cannot believe the person my wife has turned into. I know I have my part in this, but she is so cold. I'm having such a hard time detaching. I've never felt this hopeless in my life.
Sadly bro, it is "normal". We've all been there. It really does get better with time... Deataching is really the only way to go...
Sandi - I've read through most of your comments on this forum and you seem to have a lot of experience and knowledge with the WW and WAW. I know that even know my wife doesn't seem to be having a affair, you would consider her a WW. Since things have got so out of control and very hurtful things being said back and forth at each other the last 3 months ( Such as her telling me that she has raised our kids since birth and that i was never there for her) Which is a complete lie, but her reality. Is there truly any possible way She going to give our marriage a chance. I want so desperately to keep our family together and grow old with my wife.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
I can't stop the obsessive thoughts in my head. If i do a separation and leave my house. Can I stop my wife from bringing OM into my house overnight while kids are there.
Nope. That's why we tell you not to leave a house without talking to a divorce lawyer first. Google "men's right divorce" and you'll see all the reasons for not doing that. Too many dads cave into their wives and do the "honorable thing" then get screwed out of custody and child support.
We've all been there, I'm fighting the same cold wife you are fighting as well. You've got to protect yourself, for your and your children's sake.
I'm pretty sure your wife is having an EA, just like mine. Look deeper for the signs.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
