Rednail: Dropping the rope

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I would love to meet a man like squiggy, thornton,or tim. I just have to tell myself that you guys are really out there and not just the jerks or aholes who tend to flock to me.

Speaking as a guy, I'll let you in on a non-secret. A lot of the really great guys might not have the self-confidence or self-esteem to say something. It's like when you're at a party or something, and you see a knock-out gal, great personality - you'd really like to meet her or say something.

But you don't. However, it's always the jerks and a-holes that have no problem saying something. It's not that you attract that sort - it's that often these types have no problems asserting themselves. All the jerks I know seem to have no problem finding dates - and having relationships. Lots of 'em.

I always wonder about these beautiful women - and what they see in these clowns. I suppose it's really that their self-esteem is as bad as the guys that were too afraid to ask. There's a lot of us blowing it out there.

And just know that there are plenty of great guys out there who could care less about you having 2 kids. They might have 2 of their own - or none at all. It's going to be you that make the difference.

And 24? Good grief. I didn't start dating my W until 23, and got married at 28. I've got socks older than you are. Heck, There are LP's I haven't played for that long (seriously). Oh, an LP is a flat, black vinyl thing you put on a... oh, nevermind.

My only advice - as pathetic as it is - is to worry about your children first and foremost. Don't feel pressured to find somebody. IMHO that can only work to your detriment. The right guy will literally drop in your lap when you least suspect it, but when you and your kids need it the most.

Look at TimR here on the forum, he's more worried about the welfare of his step sons than his WW - by a long-shot. You too will find someone - or they will find you - and care not just about you, but your children.