Need practical ideas to aid my 180/Last Resort.WAW

[bigybiz]

Thanks for the input - no I don't know her love language. She does love to serve, I think researching that should be a priority for me thanks.

Yes, many of the changes are initially a wake up call. My finances are a mess - I hired a book keeper, the house projects have been left undone - they are now getting done. I did not make main meals - Now I am.

I'm fit and in the best shape of my life. I'm having a hard time concentrating so my work is not flourishing - but I'm trying. There are some good opportunities in front of me I'm grabbing.

Yes, I see where some of the issues are that I can fix without her. These fixes have both an immediate and long term pay off for everyone. Yes, I want them to be lasting changes. I'd like to have a new me. That lack of stress and the new skills will be great for me. Especially if I can't save the M.

Being emotionally available and sharing with her - for her that ship has sailed. So lets see if the other changes help us get on the road to reconciliation.

I'm trying not to make her the centre of my life and I'm working hard at it. I don't think she cares that I'm out with friends or when I take the boys out for an activity. She want's to hide/her space.

That's why I'm asking for ideas on how I can keep improving and changing that will make me the best me - and maybe get some course correction going.

The problem is everyone - I don't know what is going to work. That's why I'm willing to try anything. So keep the ideas and comments coming.