That is better than nothing…try to add to it little by little. Do not initiate contact. Tomorrow is another day. Plan some GAL activities. You had a bad day - but you can do this.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
She was contacting me, and I was responding in mostly a strong and confident manner. (But not completely.) Then I lost it and got impatient and told her to leave me alone. And that stopped all the progress we had made. I miss her. I think I made a mistake by telling her I didn't want to hear about her angst anymore. I can't work this out in my head! I feel her slipping away and into ow's arms. And that stinks.
Please, isn't there another way? I do have one more bill I need to tell her about... it was due and paid on Saturday... yet I don't really want to be the one to initiate anything. Damn, why can't we mind read???
My belief is that honesty is the best policy. If you don't want her to leave you alone then don't tell her to. You can fix this.
But how, TX?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Thanks for stopping by on my sitch NYgal. Wait it out. If she's thinking of you, then she'll be back in contact and when she does be ready for her. Show her the bright, strong independent woman anybody would to be with. You know the drill and you can do it.
Thanks, Scrant. The waiting is so hard. I miss her so much. But I know there's nothing else I can do right now. I keep hoping the A dies a sudden, ugly and final death.
I am working on myself. Internally and externally. Exercise, make-up, a haircut on Saturday, visit to the dermatologist tonight. I'm becoming a bit vain, but I didn't think I would be having to win my girl back again... or another one, at this point in my life. The pain just doesn't go away, dammit.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
TXHubby, I'd love to hear your theory on how I can fix this.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I can tell you that the A is going to die, although it might take time. STBXH told me that he hadn't introduced OW to the kids because in a couple of years there could be someone else.
As one of my friend pointed out, him saying that about his lover for 3 year says a lot about what he thinks about her. Not a relationship in the ling term for him, so not worth it to introduce her to kids. Still can't believe that he has destroyed his family life for someone who he doesn't see a future with! Will he wake up? I think he is perfectly aware of what he does and used OW has an escape because he couldn't face to walk our on his second set of children like he did the first time! COWARD is the word that crosses my mind, on the other hand I know he won't come back and now I'm getting fine with it.
You are still new in your story and it will take time and eventually you will feel indifference for WAS allowing you to move on!
I don't want indifference; I want her back. We had a great life and a great love together. I don't understand why this has happened and I don't accept it. We are not done.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Nygal.. I just want to give you a hug. I know its hard and stinks.
I had someone tell me one thing we can do is make ourselfs look and feel like a million dollars. Haircut, make up, dermatologist..you are on a roll. Keep doing what it takes to make you feel like the sexy confident women you are inside. I don't want indifference either but maybe indifference in db means more like you have accepted You don't need her but want her back vs you Just don't care about her at all.
TXHubby, I'd love to hear your theory on how I can fix this.
At this point you have to be the best you that you can be. Exercise, dress to kill, be outgoing and energetic. I know you have it in you. Also, be visible to your W. Don't make contact but don't avoid places where she'll be. When you were going to the b-ball games with friends, looking great, and having a great time, that worked. It got her attention.
The more out of sight you are, the more out of mind/heart you are. Don't become an introvert. That's highly unattractive. I once broke up with a girl. She was out of sight out of mind and it was easy for me to move on. Then I started bumping into her and she looked great and was happy. That drove me crazy and I wanted her back so bad. She would have none of it but still, seeing her like that is what pulled me back. If I hadn't seen her I would have moved on and forgotten her.
Don't reach out and make contact but do be visible to her and be your absolute best self when you are. I think that is your best chance for her to reach out to you.
